Assalamualaikum warohmatullahi wa barakatuh
Raising children nowadays is not a simple task for parents. During my time, there is no such class which so called the Parenting Class. Only when I studied in the university, i heard about it. Parents are dealing with 'trust' from Allah Almighty. I remember at the first time I knew that I was having a baby.. I had so many dreams of raising my baby in a proper ways.
It was easy when they were still baby but just they entered the school and kindergarten..parents saying are less acceptable by the children. Teachers are always right no matter what the parent say. Sometimes i would say to my kids...ummi also a teacher and they will say nooo!!....teacher said this way. Instead of arguing with them, I just need to let it go.
I started to use my power of negotiation on them by assisting them doing their homework, pretending to be a pupil especially when my daughter acting as a teacher. I was smiling listening to my daughter's instruction to her brother. She always punish her brother even he answered right.. I guess that what happened at school. She assumed the teacher always right and giving punishment.
I realized ... no matter how strong teachers' influenced over my daughter, I need to grab her attention again. I need to concentrate more on her. Not because I am jealous of the teacher but I believed the responsibility of a mother should be more strong compared to a teacher. I still need to form her attitudes in a proper ways, not leaving that task to their teachers alone. Hopefully, I can fulfill my task a amother to grow her according to Islam until the responsibility transfer to a new member of our small world... her husband.
It was easy when they were still baby but just they entered the school and kindergarten..parents saying are less acceptable by the children. Teachers are always right no matter what the parent say. Sometimes i would say to my kids...ummi also a teacher and they will say nooo!!....teacher said this way. Instead of arguing with them, I just need to let it go.
I started to use my power of negotiation on them by assisting them doing their homework, pretending to be a pupil especially when my daughter acting as a teacher. I was smiling listening to my daughter's instruction to her brother. She always punish her brother even he answered right.. I guess that what happened at school. She assumed the teacher always right and giving punishment.
I realized ... no matter how strong teachers' influenced over my daughter, I need to grab her attention again. I need to concentrate more on her. Not because I am jealous of the teacher but I believed the responsibility of a mother should be more strong compared to a teacher. I still need to form her attitudes in a proper ways, not leaving that task to their teachers alone. Hopefully, I can fulfill my task a amother to grow her according to Islam until the responsibility transfer to a new member of our small world... her husband.
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